3 Ways To Deal With Verbal Abuse In The Workplace

Workplace Verbal AbuseVerbal abuse in the workplace is becoming more and more common but, here’s the question. In what world is verbally abusing someone at work considered to be ok?

You know as well as I do that there are always going to be conflicts in the workplace but being verbally abusive shouldn’t be the way of handling them.

Conflicts happen because of differing opinions on the job being done or the direction the company is taking but workplace verbal abuse that is used by a bully has a much more serious impact on the targeted person.

Yes, the workplace bully uses verbal abuse to target people with one goal in mind, to break them down and take away their self confidence, productivity and increase their stress levels to the point they either leave or are terminated from the company.

So, what can you do if you find yourself being verbally abused by someone where you work? Here are three steps you should take right away.

First you need to call it like it is and realize that this is really happening to you. So, if you are suffering from workplace verbal abuse, you must admit that this abuse and the abuser is the problem just like you would call out your smoking habit if you are diagnosed with cancer.

After you admit and accept the fact that you are being bullied at work, the second thing you need to do is to use your sick leave, vacation time or any means available to you so you will have time to heal and plan.

During this time you might want to seek professional help both medically and emotionally.This will bring into perspective all that you are going through and help you to realize that this abuse is NOT your fault.

You did not cause this to happen and it’s not really about you, it’s always about the bully.
This extra time off would be a great time to do a job search too as most people that are targeted by a bully at work end up either leaving the job voluntarily or are terminated because of the bully’s deceptive practices.

Now that you have taken those steps the last thing you need to do is expose the bully to the management by using an approach which shows what this behavior is actually costing the company.
That’s right, you will have to do some research on it to find out how many good employees have left because of the verbal abuse and what the overall cost to the company is. You will probably end up losing your job over this entire situation but you will be able to hold your head high proudly knowing that you did the right thing.

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4 Responses to 3 Ways To Deal With Verbal Abuse In The Workplace

  1. Kay says:

    I work the Front desk at a hotel & about a month go one of the housekeeper walk ed by when I had two guest checking in say the f word over & over. I went back to the laundry room where she was told her she couldn’ be talking like that at my front desk. She said it isn’t your f—— front desk & you aren’t my f—— boss so don’t ever tell me what to do. Last Sunday I took a room list to her & she just grabbed it out my hand I kind of laughed thinking how childish that was. She came screaming into my office, What so funny you old senile f—– Bitch, I asked her to leave my office, then she started throwing things including a paper weight, I called the head housekeeper to come get her out. She told her to calm down & go home, she refused. I told the manager about this & asked if she could review the cameras, said she didn’t know how. can you ask the owner then & she said Wed. I will have a meetiing with you two. Wed I asked the owner to review the cameras, he asked why & I told him, which was a big mistake because manager screamed at me for telling him. How they solved this is by banning me from any contact with any housekeepers

  2. heidi says:

    A lot of this bullying is in part from the new lifestyle that is divorces and at home abuse so it carries over into the work place. Not everyone is a christian or positive person!

  3. Judith says:

    Proverbs…21 and 22 says – If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; For you will heap burning coals on his head, And the LORD will reward you.
    This scripture tells us that if we show kindness to those who persecute us they will burn with guilt and you will be rewarded possibly with a nicer person to deal with.

  4. Jim Vorraro says:

    I believe I may be a victim of workplace bullying..
    I started a new job recently and I’m being trained
    By many different trainers but the one that is training me now is extremely negative and I believe she doesn’t like Men.
    Today she told me that men are stupid and Everyman she has trained has gave her problems, And the women give her no issues… This is just one instance.. She shared with me that her husband just left her and I feel that I’m the target now that he’s not around..
    I’m a very positive person and truly believe you treat others how you want to be treated( the golden rule) so is there anything that I can do or should do not just for my sake but For the sake of others as well because I’m pretty confident I’m not the first but I would like to be the last.. Thank you for reading and Nameste :-)

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